To My Husband

If you see Jeff Zahner today wish him happy retirement!

Jeff is going on an adventure.

That’s how we do things in our family. Our oldest daughter, Jessie, inspired this family moto. “What adventure shall we tackle today, Layla?” she asks her two-year-old just about every morning.

And that’s exactly how Jeff is looking at his future. He’s gathered up books he wants to read, Marx toys he wants to organize, and journals he wants to reminisce over. He’s made notes of places he would like to visit, sorted through boxes of sports paraphernalia, sold his journeyman’s tools, and emptied his prized shed.

He’s free.

For over forty years, Jeff worked full time and provided a wonderful life for me and our children. Twenty-five of those years (at a minimum), he worked consistent 60+ hour weeks.

I know, lots of people work overtime. But the one thing that sets Jeff apart is in the over-forty years of rising early and working long days and weekends, he never once complained.

Not one single time.

I’ll never understand that in him–his ability to accept the hand life deals you so easily, happily.

I have been blessed to be married to Jeff for over thirty-eight years. I asked him the other day if he minded always being my shoulder and never having me be his shoulder because that’s the way it is in our marriage. Me worrying. Him coddling.

He thought for a moment and then said, quite sincerely, “Actually, no. I like being the shoulder.”

That’s Jeff. Content, happy—accepting life just as it is. That is a quality many people never choose. (Me included!)

I think my children will agree, Jeff has been a great role model. All three inherited his courage and work ethic. Jessie ventured away after high school to earn an undergrad and graduate degree in psychology, then worked in the professional sports arena for years until taking on her most important job, raising our granddaughter! Zak said goodbye to Erie for good after law school, and Jilly, at age twenty-six, packed up her car, moved all by herself to Raleigh, North Carolina, and today holds two jobs and is working toward her doctorate!

Now it’s Jeff’s turn, and I am blessed to be a part of his next adventure. We will spend the next few years partially in Erie and partially in Raleigh. We will also visit our daughter and granddaughter in California, our son in Philly, and travel as often as we can/want!

There will be good times and bad times ahead. (But how lucky am I to always have that firm shoulder to lean on?) Our adventures may lead us to many places. Some we will love and others, not so much. But that’s what makes life exciting, isn’t it? The adventure? And there isn’t anyone else in the world I would rather go on an adventure with other than my husband.

I love you, Jeff. Thanks for working so hard all these years and providing a great life for me and the kids.  Thanks for always being a firm shoulder for me to rest my weary head on. And most of all, thank you for loving me. Marrying you was the absolute best adventure I took in my life. If our next adventures are half as good as that, what a great retirement you (we) will have.

jillys fence(Ps. Jilly texted. Don’t sell all your tools. When you get to Raleigh you have to fix her fence.)



CJ Zahner retired from her full-time job at 58 years old when her supportive husband, Jeff, said, “Quit your job. You’re a writer.”

She is now the author of The Suicide Gene, a psychological thriller, and Dream Wide Awake and Project Dream, two thrillers that carry a paranormal element. These last two novels were inspired by Zahner’s own experiences. See the video of her paranormal experience, a premonition of 9/11 here. Download her Beyond Reality Radio podcast here. Follow her on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Goodreads, BookBub, or LinkedIn. Purchase her books on Amazon. And watch for her soon to be released novel, Friends Who Move Couches.







One thought on “To My Husband

  1. sue elwell

    congratulations Jeff and i’m so happy for both of you! it was great seeing you both last week and hope we will always stay in touch! love you guys😘

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